They Call Me on My S*#t

It was great having the kids home for the holidays.  They where a big help to me around the place doing all the chores that I do while they are at school, freeing up my time to get other stuff done.  It is not just the work load that they reduce it is the noise from jokes, pranks, laughter and the extra hugs and support that I really appreciate when they are home. 

They are real levellers to.  I've done my best to expose them to different ways of thinking and ways and tools to be more resilient in life through all my learning's.  They sit through many hours in the car listening to all sorts of self help, motivational or inspirational cd's.  So when I am having a bad hair day they are very good at reminding me of something that we listened to and how I am not practicing what I am preaching, so to speak.  It makes me laugh because I sometimes wonder who is the adult and who is the child.  And I am often amazed by how much they take in from what I am learning because there is often a lot of eye rolling and moans and groans coming from the back seat of the car as they get out  a book to read or go to sleep.

I love it when they call me out on my S*#T moments, because it means that I have been reacting to a person or a situation instead of responding.  When I react things just come out of my mouth, it is not thought about.  It is often hurtful or just plain dumb and I don't feel very nice afterwards.  But when I respond it is done with thought and consciousness.  I allow myself to take a few deep breaths and allow myself to feel the emotions that have surfaced and then consciously respond.  I say it how I am feeling it and I am acknowledging my needs and feelings.  I am also less inclined to take things personally so whatever has happened really doesn't bother me as much or at all.

It is a practice to be able to respond to a situation.  I say practice because it doesn't just happen.  It takes awareness to know when you are reacting or responding and it is something that you realise after the fact, most times.  Even recognising when you have reacted afterwards is better then not recognising reactions at all because this just helps to heighten your awareness even more and make a conscious choice to respond differently next time.

Luckily for me I have the kids to help me practice conscious responding.

If you like magazines, especially country/horse related ones I invite you to check out "The Horse Downunder" mag where I write the Lighten Your Load column and other occasional articles.

Until next time have fun responding to life's little moments.

TRUST

 Well the rain has been a little on the scarce side of things lately.  Not a lot to skite about in that department here.  Hopefully you have received some to help you through.

 In April I hosted a cutting clinic here at Uanda.  I have never done cutting before.  I have watched it a few times and I have campdrafted with my favourite part of having a campdraft run being the cut out section.  So when I was asked if I would like to host a clinic I was pretty excited.  Saying yes to hosting the clinic was the easy part, getting people to actually coming along and parting with their money was the difficult bit.  I annoyed people with emails and posts on Facebook as well as putting up fliers around the local towns.  It felt like I was really pushing and begging for people to come and this was very deflating as I was not getting the results I had intended. 

 When Tony the clinician rang before he was to leave his place in NSW, to see how numbers where going I was not feeling very good about hosting the clinic.  I was ready to cancel.  Feeling like a bit of a failure,  Tony encouraged me to wait a few more days and see how things went and maybe I might get the extra numbers needed.  We tossed some different ideas around like shifting the location to Hughenden, which would have made it difficult to have access to cattle and would have created a larger work load for us all.  I was a nervous wreck because I wanted this clinic to go ahead only I had no clue where the extra riders where coming from.

 After my conversation with Tony I had to have a sit down and re access how I was going about things.  What was I doing to block the clinic from going ahead.  Because it was me that was the problem here.  I new that there was people out there that wanted to come only I was blocking things up with my own thoughts and beliefs.  I had to let go.  I had to let go of being in control and trying to control the outcome.  I had to let go of my limiting beliefs and thoughts.  I had to ask for help.  And when you are a control freak, who do you ask to help you?  I didn't know who to ask for help in the way of people.  So I prayed and I asked God, the Universe and the Angels for help.  I turned it all over to them.  "If this clinic is meant to be, please help me to get the rest of the riders I need to help this clinic to go ahead.  Please guide me in the right direction to let the right people know.  This or something better."  And then I had to trust.  Trust my intuition when I heard the messages to go ahead and do something.

 Well I trusted my intuition when it said to repost on facebook and from that over the course of the weekend the remaining spaces for the clinic filled.  And these riders came from a totally different area to where I had been trying so hard to get riders from.  These riders that came had to jump hurdles to get here to ride.  And one of the major draw cards for them was the location.  Out on a cattle property miles from everyday comforts.
So what are you holding on so tightly to and trying to control the outcome of?  I am curious, what would happen if you LET GO and gave your problems, worry, concerns away to God, or the Universe or the Angels or Source?  And just TRUST the downloads of your intuition or gut feelings as to when to take action.  And how much more easier do results happen for you when you LET GO?

 Have a great week


PS
If you like Magazines have a look in the "Horse Downunder"mag's winter edition for the article and photos I wrote for this clinic.   

The School of Love

When you have a hand analysis done to discover your LIFE PURPOSE you also get to discover your life lesson.  Your life lesson is found in your finger prints by counting up how many of the same type of finger prints you have.  To be in the school of love - which is the most common of the schools people are in.  You need at least 7-8 loop type finger prints. 






This is me.  I am in the school of Love with 8 loops.  And being in the school of love means I need to be emotionally authentic and express my feelings authentically and to the right people.  When I am expressing how I feel and am coming from a place of love, life and all it's adventures are a lot easier to negotiate.




When I am in the lesson for LOVE, which sometimes is more often then not, life is not as easy.  Things don't go right and I do to much for people and then resent it.  Or I get cranky at myself for not speaking up and saying what I am feeling about how others decisions and responses are effecting me.


As a school of LOVE person I am learning to master my emotions and stay fully present to my emotions and to feel them.  That is the full range of emotions everything from ecstasy to anger.  They all need my attention when they show up.  And it is ok to have these emotions regardless of the people around me as it is my stuff.  People will be uncomfortable around me at times, but that is ok.  It is not for them to tell me how to feel.  But it is my responsibility to let people know how I am feeling at that particular point in time if they are part of the emotion.  And do do it from a place of LOVE.




What I can tell you is I am a long way from mastering this.  And the more lessons I seem to learn the more I am able to help others who are going through similar circumstances.




If you would like to know your LIFE SCHOOL then email me at info@jodymurraycoaching.com or use the message box over to the side - over there on the right or give me a call on 07 47417017

Short Term Pain = Long Term Gain

The kids are going well at school.  There are the occasional tears from the twins when they call of an evening.  It is mostly when they are having a low moment and start thinking about their pets and wondering how the rest of us are going.  It seems though once they are with their friends and doing something that the low moment passes and they are back being happy chaps again.


In the times of their tears and asking to come home it is my job as their mother to hear what they feel they need to say, and at the same time not get caught up in the emotion of it all so that my mind and emotions are free to be more of a supporter rather then a worrier.  Because worrying does not serve them and it does not serve me.  We waist a lot of time worrying about things that are out of our control or none of our business.  It does not help the other party involved as it pushes unwanted energy their way and restricts the choices that they make.  And it ties up our creative mind so that it is to busy thinking worry thoughts to be helpful and thinking creative, constructive, solution finding thoughts.


And if I don't teach the kids now, how to cope with things they may not necessarily like but are beneficial to their long time learning and future it will be an even bigger struggle for them down the track when it is really going to count.  "Short term pain will = Long term gain"


And my grade 7 twin is now teaching one of his mates this concept.  Grade 7 twin is getting in and getting his home work done.  Even if it means spending extra time before or after his allotted study time and getting extra homework help in his lunch breaks or after school.  The story he tells himself to get in and get his homework done is - if he gets in and gets it finished now means extra time to play later. 


Now his friend wants to play first, dawdle through the study period, not worry about homework help so he can play and then when it is at the last minute realizes he has not done his homework starts to panic and the asks Grade 7 twin if he can copy his work.  And I have to say that I am very proud of Grade 7 twin as he told his mate, No he can't copy his work, but I will give you some help to understand what the homework is asking you to do.  By doing this he is helping his friend by not just giving in and letting him copy work which does no favours for either boy.  The mate is learning and Grade 7 twin is reinforcing what he has learnt by helping his mate understand what the tasks are.
And they will probably in the years to come have a better friend ship because Grade 7 twin didn't give in and just hand over his work for his mate to copy.




  

My Life Purpose

My life purpose is "Innovative Spiritual Teacher in the Spotlight" 


I found this out 4 years ago when I had my scientific hand analysis reading done.  Wean I had my reading done I was in a place of confusion. I new I was meant to do more with my life and I felt like I needed to be helping lots of people only I was confused and didn't have a clew of what I was meant to do.  I had lots of advise from well meaning friends that like to say, "If I was you I'd be doing............."  Their advise just didn't feel right. 


It was by investing in myself and taking a prints of my hands and getting a reading done that I was able to find out my life purpose.  And it is the finger prints in our hands that tells us this.  We are born with a unique set of finger prints that never change.  They are formed in about week 16 while we are still in eutero.  Other things in our hands change, like the shape, the lines and the markings, our finger prints never change.


There where a couple of other things that I learnt about myself to, like my life school and my life lesson.


I am in the school of LOVE.  There are 4 life schools, Love, Service, Wisdom & Peace.  Being in the school of Love means learning to be authentic and not hide my feelings, say how I feel in the moment and to the appropriate person.  What a challenge this is and I will share more about this in future blogs.


My life lesson is also around love.  It is all about stuffing my feelings and not speaking my truth and not being emotionally authentic.  The life lessons that are in our hands are things that are going to challenge us regularly and it comes from many different angles.  It is like shedding the skin f an onion.  Just when you get one layer peeled there is another.  It is when we recognise that we are in our lesson phase and moving through it that we then start to live our life purpose.


So if you are feeling stuck and unsure of your direction email me and book a scientific hand analysis session.  For a very short time I am offering hand readings for $147 and this includes the hand print kit, a 45 minute reading over the phone, a recording of the reading and your hand print chart.


So go to the contact form to the right side of your screen and book your session now.

It's Coming

The rain, that is.....


We are still waiting for decent rain.  For some reason the rain is falling to the north of us, to the south of us and to the east and west of us, but not on us.  There seems to be a pocket here in north west Queensland that is missing out.  Although there are a lot of people in the same boat as us.  Seeing our neighbours get rain with none falling on our own properties.




All though rain has been very sparse I am very grateful for the little bits we have had as it has kicked the grass along giving some relief to the cattle.  It still means carting water to areas where the dams are dry. 




The rain is coming though.  One thing about mother nature is she knows what she is doing and she doesn't like to be controlled by us.  If anything this drought is teaching me patience and to trust.  I  am learning to be patient while I wait for rain to come.  I am learning to be patient with people who are not patient and throwing themselves down with the "poor me syndrome" because things are out of their control and they seem to be the only ones affected by this drought.  I am learning to be patient with things that are outside my control, the environment, the cattle markets or lack of.  Most of all I am learning to be patient with me, especially when I have a moment when I am being unresourceful and I am yet to become consciously aware of my actions.  


I am learning to trust, trust that it will rain, trust in the environment, trust that the cattle markets will improve, trust that people are doing the best they can with the resources that they have at this point in time, trust in my ability to come out of this as a more loving, compassionate, empathic person, trust that if things don't go to my plan that I am going to be perfectly OK and where I am meant to be and that the outcome is going to be better then I expected.


And you know what?  It's coming......  The rain, that is.  It might be next week, next month or next year.  It is coming.......

Flexability, Possibilities & Opportunities

What an interesting year it has been so far.  We are still being teased by this drought and occasional showers of rain that pass very fleetingly.  All of my children are now in boarding school.  It is a big adjustment to not have them all around.  Sending the kids away to boarding school is a choice we made.  I couldn’t face spending another 6 years of home schooling and I sure couldn’t give them the opportunities of education, sport or new friends from here. 

The oldest child has already had a year away at school, which she loved every bit of.  And this has made it a little bit easier for the twins although being boy and girl twins, the girl twin has had it a bit easier as she knew a few of the older girls.  The boy twin he found going into boarding a little more challenging as he didn’t know any of the boys except for one that he did distance ed. with. 

We, as a family have spent the last couple of years talking openly about boarding school with the children preparing them and getting them to think of all the possibilities and opportunities that they will be presented with while they are there.  It has always been said that “you may not like it, but make the most of it.”

The oldest does this very well.  She is making the most of any opportunity that comes her way and this has helped her to adapt and be very flexible.  The twins, who are dearly missing all their menagerie of animals and old way of life, will in time learn to adapt and grab each opportunity with both hands and make the most of their time at school.

One thing about life, it is a constant change.  Nothing stays the same.  It is how we choose to embrace the changes that make the difference.  And the more adaptable and flexible we are to change often times the easier it is to embrace.  We may not like the change, but if we find a way to make the most of it the more possibilities and opportunities open up for us.

What is stopping you from being flexible in your life?  Do you need help to open up to opportunities and possibilities?  Did you know that the things that challenge us the most are our greatest learnings to help us create an even better life.